// About the Founder

DR. BESSIE S. FLETCHER, Ph.D.

Dr. Bessie Fletcher is a woman of force and character, beauty and charm who shows everyonehow hard work and determination can overcome great obstacles in our society. Trailblazing pioneer and cultural revolutionary, she has blended an uncompromising commitment to healing mother and daughter relationships and strengthening families worldwide through The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network. Inc.

An innovative coach therapist, Dr. Fletcher has launched a campaign to bring attention to the powerful impact a strong mother and daughter relationship has on our communities and families. Although Dr. Fletcher’s own ancestry is not replete with royal pedigree or vast wealth, her ancestors reveal a family that was steeped in the American traditions of individualism and hard work which helped her to realize the importance of stronger families in America, stemming from her own strong bonds with mother and her daughter.

She was an only child whose parents doted on her and gave her every opportunity to succeed, but also instilled in her the family values and virtues that made her family highly respected in a multi-racial community in segregated South Carolina. Dr. Fletcher is not only an advocate for mothers and daughters, she is on a mission to help heal the most dangerous weapon to our families – the lack of the mother and daughter bond.  In her workshops, Dr. Fletcher  ask each participant to reflect on their relationship with their own mother and to visualize how that relationship has affected her life, her family, her community and her relationship with others.

Dr. Fletcher organized the first mother and daughter bonding workshop in Massachusetts in the late 90’s.  From there, she’s held workshops all over the United States and in Europe, assessing needs and delivering valuable resources to mothers and daughters in the community and around the world. She has created an unparalleled connection between mothers and daughters globally, believing the mother-daughter bond is the answer to preventing family decay.  While many may believe running a non-profit organization is a daunting task, Dr. Fletcher embodies hope and determination and is on a mission with an open heart.  She states, “I was spiritually led to launch this organization…and I know I will be given the tools to make it succeed long after I’m gone.”

Dr. Fletcher has successfully coached more than 1,500 mothers and daughters to achieve better communication, resulting in stronger, more loving relationships.  Dr. Fletcher has written two books: Dream Recipe, and Seven X Seventy.  Bothbooks focus on the intra- conversation, Dr. Fletcher’s term for the on-going conversation in your head. Her message is a simple one… Teach individuals how to manage their intra-conversation and they will learn to manage their life choices.

Coach therapist, psychologist, life strategist, radio talk-show host, and soon to be online television host, Dr. Fletcher is a strong advocate for mothers’ and daughters’ bonding. She holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology and a Masters in Community Economic Development. She has done considerable post-graduate work in Human Resources and Counseling, and holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Christian Counseling.  Dr. Fletcher is a powerful, nationally renowned lecturer, trainer, spiritual teacher and motivational speaker who has lectured, trained and motivated individuals from public housing residents, to Fortune 500 Corporations, to churches throughout the US and abroad since 1982.

Memberships

  • Gelfand Good Morning Toastmasters Club
  • American Society of Training & Development
  • Minority Chamber of Commerce, Miami Chapter-Chair, Education Committee 2008
  • Chamber of Commerce:  Hollywood, FL
  • American Institution of Banking: Winston-Salem, NC-President 1987

Awards

  • Creative Public Housing Initiatives: Winston-Salem, NC
  • Omega Woman of the Year: Winston-Salem, NC

Public Appearances

  • Featured Mother’s Day Speaker, Barnes & Noble Bookstore, London, England
  • Florida Minority  Community Reinvestment Coalition Summit : Hollywood, FL
  • Johnson C. Smith Univ., Charlotte, NC
  • RJ Reynolds, Winston-Salem, NC
  • US Dept. of Housing & Urban Development., Wash., DC
  • Marketing Connections, Bedford, NH
  • Wachovia Bank,
  • Winston-Salem, NC
  • Teen Pregnancy Prevention, Evansville, IN
  • University of Evansville, Evansville, IN

Media Coverage

  • Misc. television and radio appearances FL, NH, IN, and NC
  • Miami Herald
  • South Florida Sun-Sentinel,Ft. Lauderdale, FL
  • Charlotte Observer
  • Daily Union, Manchester, NH
Dream Recipe  (the book)

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"Dr. Fletcher is the Katie Brown of the “Dream Recipe.” She serves it to her audience in the style and elegance of Oprah Winfrey.  Dr. Fletcher,  has created a “Recipe For Life.”  It’s the mental taste that takes you to a whole new Reality!"

 

// The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc.


Is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that is focused exclusively on mother and daughter relationships. This Network is dedicated to healing or improving the mother and daughter bond and to making possible the rearing of daughters with good morals, values, and strong family ties. We call this the “GMVS Model”. We believe that open and honest communication between mothers and daughters will produce thinkers who have good reasoning skills and who use good judgment. We are working with mothers and daughters from every social and economic background. Using the “GMVS Model”, we teach mothers and daughters the skills they need to create and strengthen their bonds with one another, and to develop relationships based on love, trust and mutual respect.

The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. is built around the pressing need to improve the direction toward which our societies are moving. Women have always been the strength and backbone of society - the glue that holds families and communities together. The loss of purpose, self-respect and sense of responsibility among many women these days contributes greatly to the weakening morals and increasing decline of society. The strengthening of women’s self respect and sense of family and community responsibility can be done with an improvement of the mother and daughter relationship using the “GMVS Model” and getting back to a place where each generation of women carries with it the love, respect, values, experience and wisdom of the previous generation.

The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. uses educational programs to help heal and strengthen mother and daughter bonds. Mothers and daughters learn skills, strategies and techniques to help improve their bonds through one-on-one intra-conversation communication (intra-conversation is the conversation we have in our own minds). Mothers and daughters learn that our words create our thoughts, our thoughts create our visions, and our visions create our realities.

Mothers or daughters can end up with highly negative intra-conversations when they misunderstand or misinterpret what the other is trying to tell them. Turning intra-conversation from negative to positive can be a direct result of healing and improving the mother and daughter bond.

The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. offers conferences and workshops, teleconferences and coaching sessions based on the “GMVS Model”, designed to improve communication between mothers and daughters. We offer one-day intensive mother and daughter bonding workshops with six months of follow-up group sessions; plus conferences, Internet training, one-on-one coaching and family coaching. Programs can be custom designed to meet the specific needs of your school, church or community organization. The network offers community outreach programs and seminars for larger groups of people. We publish a bi-monthly magazine: Mother and Daughter Bonding Magazine: Developing Women of Substance. Through our website, we keep our members informed and involved with regular updates on current issues, comprehensive educational resources, and future mother and daughter events.

Using the “GMVS Model”, The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. can help women realize their importance to themselves, each other, their families, their workplace, their communities and their world.

The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. survives with the support of people who realize the tremendous importance of strengthening and healing mother and daughter bonds throughout the world. Individuals, corporations, churches and community organizations can help support this worthwhile cause in many ways.



// The Reason Why Mother and Daughter Bonding Network Is Needed

Most mothers in the United States are raising at least one daughter. This is a reasonable assumption since statistics show that more females than males are born each year. More females survive to adulthood than males and females tend to live longer than males.

According to the 2003 U.S. Census Bureau statistics, there were 12,687,000 female single-parent households that year. Accordingly, the majority of these single mothers are raising at least one daughter. Do mother and daughter relationships have an impact on society, as well as their families? Absolutely.

Women are the nurturers of the family and of society. They are the bearers of future generations. Without a significant female influence in society, chaos would more than likely be the rule. Women’s intuition, compassion and nurturing natures as well as their incredible inner strength through times of diversity can make the difference between the breakdown of a society and one that thrives.

The wisdom and values that mothers pass on to their daughters and granddaughters throughout the generations are inherently important not only to specific families, but also to societies on a global scale. Women are important to the world. Mother-daughter relationships have a literal effect on society the importance of which cannot be understated.

When there are a lack of strong bonds between mothers and daughters, the unfortunate effect can be the increasingly dysfunctional relationships between mothers and daughters passed down through generations. A daughter who does not feel a strong bond of mutual love and respect with her mother is less able to love and respect herself. She will find it difficult to create a loving bond with her own daughter – she never learned how.

With each generation, the bonds can become weaker. The values, experiences, and learned wisdom of the mother cannot be passed on to the daughter if communication has broken down. For generations, a crucial element in learning to become strong, moral, capable, self-loving and nurturing women can be lost. And, our world suffers. When mothers and daughters learn to heal their damaged relationships and begin to relate to and learn from each other, they are giving a priceless gift to future generations.

The breakdown of mother and daughter bonding and the resulting loss of direction, morals, compassion and self-respect in women is becoming an increasingly dangerous problem for communities. The number of female violent offenders has increased dramatically over the past century. Auburn University sociologist, Penelope Hanke, Ph.D. discovered upon reviewing the records of an Alabama prison that 95% of the stranger-murder cases by women were committed after 1970. Sixty percent 60% of the friend/relative murders by women also occurred after this period of time.

The number of teenage girls joining violent gangs or committing felonies continues to increase. The teenage girls’ behavior is fueled by the increasing lack of respect by girls for themselves, their families, their communities and people in general. Drug use among girls and women is a problem that continues to grow unchecked. The lack of respect for themselves and the people around them affects females not only in their families and communities, but also in the workplace. With more women in the workplace these days, this can have a direct effect on the economy.

Teen pregnancy continues to be a distinct problem in today’s society. Over 800,000 teens become pregnant each year. When you have a teen mother who never developed a strong bond with her own mother, you have someone who is not only disadvantaged by immaturity, but also has no clear role model for successful mothering. If this teen mother has a daughter, the problem is perpetuated to the next generation to the next generation. It is easy to see how mother and daughter relationships can have a global effect. The domino effect is blatantly apparent.

Except for cases where there is physical or emotional abuse from the start, many mother and daughter relationships can begin to break down when the daughter begins to show signs of wanting to be independent and find her own way in the world. This can start anywhere between the ages of 13 to 18. A mother may suddenly want to stop her daughter from making the mistakes that she made at that age or from just making potentially dangerous choices.

This motherly concern may manifest itself in what the daughter perceives as nagging, controlling or continual insults. The daughter begins to believe that her mother does not approve of who she is or how she feels. The hurt the daughter feels over this concern causes feelings of resentment. If these problems are not addressed early, they can magnify and carry on into the daughter’s adulthood.

When the daughter is between the ages of 18 and 34, she is living her own unique and separate life. It is during this time that a daughter’s relationship with her mother can be strained as she feels that no matter what choices she makes in life, her mother will not approve. The mother may feel that the daughter is deliberately making choices designed to upset her, or that her daughter is shutting her out of her life simply because she has grown to dislike her. Hurt feelings abound on both sides. Unless there is a healing of the rift between mother and daughter, the problems may never be resolved. Thus, the mother and daughter bond can be lost for good.

In the situation where a mother has been the product of generations of broken bonds between mothers and daughters, the problems can start quite early after having her own daughter. Even when her daughter is at a very young age, the mother can be reminded of the dysfunctional relationship she had with her own mother. The mother can damage the relationship with her young daughter by trying to overcompensate or by simply not trying to bond with her young daughter at all for fear of more emotional pain.

With your help, we can realize the dream of strengthening mother and daughter bonds in our families, communities and the world. Our communities and our world will be enriched in many ways by this most necessary and important endeavor. To find out how you can help or how the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network can help you, contact us.



// Our Objectives

This Network is Dedicated to Healing and Improving the Mother and Daughter Bond

We Use:
GMVS Model—Good Morals, Values, and Strong Family Ties.


We Develop:
Skills needed to create and strengthen bonds.
Relationships based on love, trust, and mutual respect.


We Teach:
Self Respect
Sense of Family
Community responsibility
One-on-one intra-conversation communication


We Turn:
Negative intra-conversations to positive ones
Mother and daughter bonds into healthy relationships.


We Have:
One-day intensive bonding workshops
6 months of follow up group sessions (voluntary)
Conferences
Internet training
One-on-One coaching
Family coaching


“Using the GMVS Model, mothers and daughters will realize their importance to themselves, each other, their families, their workplace, their communities, and their world."


// Privacy

The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. is highly sensitive to the privacy interest of consumers and believes that the protection of those interests is one of its most significant responsibilities. In acknowledgment of its obligations, The National Association of the Mother and Daughter Bonding Network, Inc. has adopted the following Privacy Policy applicable to information about consumers that it acquires in the course of its operation.

Acquisition of information: We do not acquire any more information about consumers than is required by law or is otherwise necessary to provide a high level of service efficiently and securely.

Our Employees and Privacy: We train all of our employees about the importance of privacy. We give access to information about consumers only to those employees who require it to perform their jobs.

Disclosure to Third Parties: We will provide individually-identifiable information about consumers to third parties only if we are compelled to do so by order of a duly-empowered governmental authority, or it is necessary to process transactions and provide our services.
   
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